Momotaro x Mindful Intimacy Pt.4
Myth No. 3
One of the biggest myths about intimacy is the idea that desire is something that just happens. That we either have it or we don’t, and if we don’t, something must be wrong. But what if desire isn’t a passive force at all? What if it’s something we can cultivate, nurture, and grow—intentionally creating more connection, joy, and alignment in our lives? Learning to cultivate desire in every aspect of life is essential. Inspiration, connection, and fulfillment don’t just sustain themselves—if we want to live a life that feels “turned on”- then we must remain constantly curious, constantly inquisitive, and open to exploring what lights us up.
Myth #3: Desire Is Something That Just Happens
One more myth we have to talk about is the idea that desire is something that just happens magically—that we either have it or we don’t, and if we don’t, something must be wrong.
The truth is, desire isn’t something you either have or don’t—it’s something we can cultivate. Just like a garden, desire needs attention, nourishment, and care. When we start to view it this way—as something we can create, nurture, and grow—we can begin to shift our mindset and our relationship with intimacy entirely.
Why This Matters
The idea that desire should always be spontaneous has caused so many of us to feel broken, frustrated, or disconnected from our partners or ourselves. But this simply isn’t true. Desire ebbs and flows naturally, influenced by everything from stress to self-image to the way we view our own worthiness.
By shifting the way we think about desire, we can begin to see it as something dynamic—an invitation to explore and connect, rather than a fixed trait. This mindset creates more space for self-compassion, curiosity, and intentional intimacy.
An Exercise to Cultivate Desire
Here’s a simple practice to begin cultivating desire, inspired by The Better Sex Blueprint:
✨ The Desire Journal Exercise:
1️⃣ Reflect on a time when you felt deeply desired, alive, or connected to your body. Write down what made you feel that way—what was happening, where you were, and how it felt.
2️⃣ Ask yourself: How does desire feel in my body? Does it show up as warmth, energy, or something else?
3️⃣ Think about one small way you could intentionally invite more desire into your life this week. Maybe it’s creating a cozy space for yourself, taking time for sensual self-care, or simply slowing down and being present in your body.
Remember, cultivating desire is a practice—it’s not about doing it “perfectly” but about creating moments of connection that feel meaningful to you.
What This Has to Do with Your Spiritual Practice
You want a life that feels “turned on”? Then you have to turn it on. Desire isn’t something that just shows up—it’s something we must actively create and cultivate. When we open ourselves to curiosity and ask, What sounds good to me? What feels interesting to me right now? we invite the divine to flow through us in real, tangible ways.
It’s not about what lit you up 10 years ago or what’s supposed to excite you—it’s about listening to your authentic self in this moment and following that spark. That’s how we stay connected to joy, inspiration, and alignment.
Living a life that feels vibrant and alive isn’t passive; it’s active. We must consistently check in, remain curious, and give ourselves permission to follow what lights us up. When we do, we create a life that feels deeply connected—not just to ourselves, but to something greater.
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