Mindful Intimacy with Dr Paz Pt. 3

Mention it to Manage it

TIP 3: MENTION IT TO MANAGE IT
Someone once said to me, that which is mentionable is manageable.  For so many of us, sex isn’t easily mentioned and as such, isn’t easily managed. In order to access your best sexual self and then your best sexual partnership, you need to be able to normalize talking about it.  Neutralize it.  THIS is one of the main communication keys to good sex.

Tip: Begin to create a comfort with neutral language around sex and the body.

How to:
Start with these three prompts- get a journal out and start by writing the prompt and then keep going, as long as you can go, until you feel like you hit something true and real. An “aha” moment.

1. On a scale of 1-10 the amount I feel comfortable thinking about sex is…
2. On a scale of 1-10 the amount I feel comfortable talking about sex in general is…
3. On a scale of 1-10 the amount I feel comfortable talking to my partner about our intimate relationship is…
4. The most striking thing about the above is…

TOOL 1: Start solo
Start creating a NEUTRAL neural network for the language. Simple repetition in solitude is the best way to do this.

How to:
1. To start: practice speaking about sex in neutrality, practice saying body parts, thoughts, feelings, and fantasies out loud in the mirror, the shower, the car, etc.


Now off you go! Find your nearest mirror, get chatting and don’t forget to sign up so you can join for more upcoming mindful intimacy content HERE