Great Sex Starts with Self…
Better Intimacy is More Than Just a Bedroom Issue…
As we prepare for our free webinar on October 24th at 8 PM with Upstate Mary, I wanted to share some thoughts on the connection between self-care and intimacy—something I know can surprise us. Whether we’re seeking a deeper connection with a current partner or new one, the journey always begins within. Below are a few reflections to get us thinking about how our inner world shapes the intimacy we create. I hope it resonates and gets us ready for a meaningful conversation next week.
3 Surprising Ways Great Sex Starts with Self
In yogic philosophy, there’s a guiding principle: “As it is below, so it is above.” This idea reminds us that true change begins within ourselves. The surprising shift to great sex actually starts with our own self-care. If there’s something we want to transform in our relationships—whether it’s a dynamic we’re stuck in or deeper intimacy—the shift begins by looking inward. Below are three ways, that might surprise you, to move closer to the best intimacy of your life.
“Unhealed wounds become walls—until you face them, no one gets in.”
Pain buried inside creates invisible barriers that intimacy can’t penetrate. Healing isn’t just self-care; it’s clearing the path to love.“Give yourself the care you’re seeking from others.”
The love, attention, and care you crave can’t come from someone else. Start by nurturing yourself, and others will naturally meet you at that level.“If you don’t honor your own needs, intimacy turns into self-betrayal.”
Without boundaries, every ‘yes’ to another is a ‘no’ to yourself. Start respecting your own needs—then watch how others follow suit.
Each of these practices creates a foundation for the kind of intimacy we all desire, starting with deeper care and connection to ourselves. When we heal, nurture, and honor our own needs, we naturally invite relationships that reflect that same love and respect. Intimacy doesn’t begin with another person—it starts with how we show up for ourselves. As we prepare for next week’s webinar, consider these practices as the first steps toward manifesting the deeper connections you seek. And I hope you will
JOIN US
We’re kicking things off with a special free webinar on October 24th at 8 pm ET, where Dr. Lisa Paz, Upstate Mary’s co-founder Melissa and I will explore why intimacy is a core part of our wellness journies. This is a conversation you won’t want to miss, as we’ll be diving deep into the intersection of our programs and sharing practical tips to help you reboot your intimate life.
When: October 24th at 8 pm ET
Where: Online Webinar
Grab a cup of tea (or a glass of wine), settle in, and join us for an evening of real talk, insights, and inspiration.
See you there!
Dr. Lisa & Nicole
