Myths of Independent Play

Debunking Common Misconceptions

Independent play is a crucial part of a child's development, but several myths often serve as barriers for parents, keeping them from even starting. These misconceptions can create unnecessary obstacles and doubts. By addressing and debunking these myths, we aim to empower parents to not only believe that they can support their child's independent play but also to reassure them that their child is entirely capable of engaging in it successfully.

Myth 1: Solo Play Means Completely Alone
One common misconception is that independent play requires a child to be entirely alone. In reality, solo play can begin with the parent present in the room, practicing parallel play. This approach allows children to engage in their own activities while still having the comfort of their parent's presence. Over time, as children become more confident and comfortable, they can gradually transition to more independent play.

Myth 2: Independent Play Must Last for Hours
Another myth is that independent play should last for long stretches of time. The truth is, it can start with just a few minutes—3 to 5 minutes is a great beginning. Just like any skill, the ability to engage in independent play strengthens over time with practice. It's important to start small and gradually increase the duration as your child becomes more adept at playing independently.

Myth 3: It Has to Be Clean and Tidy
Many parents worry that independent play will result in a mess. While it’s true that solo play often involves some level of mess, this can be an opportunity to teach children about cleaning up after themselves. By preparing for and managing the mess, we can use it as a chance to instill the value of tidying up before moving on to the next activity. Embracing the mess rather than fearing it helps to make the process smoother and more manageable.

Myth 4: It Will Look Linear and Structured
It’s a common belief that independent play should follow a clear, linear pattern. However, independent play doesn’t always make sense to us as adults, but that doesn’t mean it’s not beneficial. Children may approach play in non-linear ways, and that's perfectly okay. Their play is an important part of their learning and creativity, even if it doesn't follow a predictable path.

Myth 5: Children Won’t Need Us During Independent Play
It’s also a myth that children will not need their parents during independent play. In fact, children may check in from time to time for reassurance or guidance. This is a normal part of the process, and we can help you figure out the best ways to support these check-ins without interrupting their play.

Myth 6: Screen Time Is Incompatible with Independent Play
Lastly, while it may not be our go to choice- there’s a misconception that screen time can’t be a part of independent play. In reality, screen time can be integrated into an independent play progress plan in a balanced way. We can guide you on how to use digital resources as a tool for fostering independent play, ensuring that screen time supports rather than detracts from the development of this skill.

We are diving into all of this and MUCH more as well as helping you create custom-doable action plans for your own child and home in our webinar next week and sign up is officially OPEN!!